I got a letter in the mail from my mother today and it sparked a notion to write a collaboration of stuff my parents said to myself and/or sister over the years.
"Why couldn't you be more like your sister?" - to my sister in response to her "unruly" behaviour.
"I wish I never had kids." - After an in-depth conversation, my mother concluded that, if she had the choice back in the day, she wouldn't have kids because of how fucked up the world is. For the present time, she said she didn't regret having my sister and I...
"You'll have a difficult life from now on." - I had a lot of issues with my mother after coming out. She has trouble accepting that I'm gay and believes that I'd have an easier life if I were straight.
"Children are to be seen and not heard." - This is one of the few negative things my dad said to my sister and I, but one of the more destructive. This aided in my depression and lack of communication with my parents as far as how bad it had gotten.
"The only reason your father and I haven't divorced is because of you kids." - Tell that to an eight year old and let me know how they'd feel.
"Transexuals are confused." - In response to Chaz Bono.
"Art won't get you anywhere in life." - This was a very long conversation and a sum-up of what was said. I wanted to go to art school and then go into computer animation. My mother hated the idea and told me that I should find something else to do with my life. My dad suggested that I go into engineering, so I could continue to draw.
"You must be possessed." - When I finally got help for my depression and went into detail about it, that's what my mother had to say.
"I want you to get married in a church." - Part of me not wanting to get married is because of my mother. I don't believe in marriage and people can be perfectly happy without needing to be married. Trying to get my mother to understand that is a continuous battle.
"I don't want to be a grandma." - My sister is pregnant now and my mum is happy. It's one more thing that was directed more at me than my sister.
"You disappoint me." - This was the most used phrase my mother used on me. It drove me insane [literally] trying to reach her level of acceptance, but failing so hard in the process. My academics were strained because of this unrealistic ideal. I was depressed beyond hope because I was failing my classes. I wanted to kill myself because I didn't get into college at sixteen.
There's bunch more, but I can't think of them at the moment. I'm too pissed off.